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Do You Need a Marriage Debrief?
Have you and your spouse ever been in a situation that you know for certain requires a discussion, but that9s simply not possible in the moment?
Even if you9re masters of resolving conflict, there are times when getting
into it right then and there isn9t the best choice. These are the times that
call for a marriage debrief.
What is a marriage debrief?
The definition of a marriage debrief can be a bit fluid, but in general it9s
going to involve having an intentional discussion with your spouse about
a situation or experience you went through together, or even about your
marriage itself.
What are some examples?
It9s not an all-inclusive list by any means, but here some examples of situations that might call for a marriage debrief:
A. You disagree with how your spouse is handling a hard parenting moment, but you don9t say anything in front of the kids 3 or you do choose to
call it out when it9s happening, and your spouse feels undermined.
B. Your spouse makes a comment in front of your mutual friends that was
rather embarrassing. You9re hurt they would say that in front of others, but
you didn9t want to start an argument in front of everyone, so you let it
slide for the time being.
C. You9re just coming out of a hectic few months 3 crazy kids9 schedules,
everyone being sick, stressful times at work, you name it. You were operating in survival mode, but see the light at the end of the tunnel. You won-
