November 2025 - Magazine - Page 89
November 2025
decide to do so. It doesn9t always feel great when your spouse opens up
with a third party present before they9ve shared those same sentiments with
you (sometimes this can cause conflict in its own right!)
2. Be respectful.
Let9s say the question raised is actually a major issue in your relationship. It
might be tempting to throw your spouse under the bus in order to gain an
unbiased perspective or even just to see if the person9s opinion on the matter aligns with your own. Although it might feel satisfying in the moment, this
can be a major blow to your connection as a couple and the sense of loyalty and emotional safety you have with one another. Respect your marriage
by keeping the issue between you and your spouse.
3. Give a vague answer if you need to.
The people around you might be waiting for an answer, but you don9t have
to give one if you9re not comfortable doing so. Be gracious, but clear, if it9s
something you9d rather not discuss in front of everyone. You might say
something like,
