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Mi n i str i es
ASK THESE QUESTIONS WHEN
THINGS ARE FEELING OFF
Sometimes you and your spouse can look at each other and have an
entire conversation in just one glance. You9re in tune with each other and
on the same page. Other times, this isn9t the case. It might feel like you9re a
million miles apart 3 emotionally, mentally, and physically. You9re snippy
and easily annoyed with each other. One misunderstanding leads to
another. Neither of you feels like the other person knows where you9re
coming from. You9re not necessarily mad at each other, but you can both
admit that things feel… off.
Can you relate? Most couples go through periods like this from time to time
3 it9s normal! Next time things start feeling off between you and your
spouse, take some time to ask these questions:
Am I holding onto something that needs to be addressed?
Maybe it9s a comment your spouse made last week, something they did or
didn9t do, or feelings you9ve been experiencing lately. It could be any
number of things, but if you9re holding something in that is causing you to
have negative feelings toward your spouse, it9s time to call yourself out on
it. Chances are those feelings are turning into resentment, and it9s best to
nip that in the bud ASAP. Even if it9s an issue that you9ve already discussed,
it might be necessary to get realigned or recalibrated. After all, many
ongoing issues in marriage aren9t resolved in just one conversation 3 they
tend to keep popping up from time to time. And that9s also why they tend
to trigger us more in the first place.
Is there something you really need your spouse to hear?
Sometimes you just need to get something off your chest, and have your
